Cruciform: Crossroads Conversations
Men Choosing the Right Path
Real Talk, Real Faith, and Real Growth
Overview
Join us as we discuss choices and challenges in today's complex society. We'll take a deep dive into men's decision-making paths while encouraging a journey of
self discovery and growth. Open to men 18 years and older.
Format
We will meet on the third Sunday of each month at 5 p.m. Sessions will begin with dinner, followed by a lesson and small group time, concluding by 7 p.m. We are currently meeting at Immanuel Anglican Church located at 7075 Hoadly Road.
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Mar 22, 2026 Apr 19, 2026 Jun 28, 2026 Jul 19, 2026 Aug 16, 2026
The next session is scheduled for Sunday October 18.
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March 22, 2026
Click here to download the slides.
Click here for "What is a Man?" PDF.
Click here for "Lesson and Deployment" PDF.
Click here for the Cruciform Covenant PDF.
Will Archer's Recommended Readings
Stand Firm and Act Like Men: Becoming the Man You Were Created to Be Instead of Who the World Says You Are
by Joby Martin
The Abolition of Man
by C.S. Lewis
Three Simple Things: Leading During Chaos
by Thom Shea
April 19, 2026
The Forest King’s Recalibration
Theme: The Vertical Axis & The Art of Calibrated Strength.
I. Opening Reflection: "Good Timber"
We begin with Douglas Malloch’s Good Timber. The "tree that never had to fight for sun and sky and air and light" never becomes a forest king; it dies a "scrubby thing."
In the Cruciform framework, we recognize a vital truth: Timber cannot grow without the soil, and the soil requires cycles of rest to remain vibrant. To be "Good Timber," you must endure the gale, but you must also anchor deep in the stillness. A man who only fights but never rests becomes brittle. We do not rest because we are weak; we rest so that our strength remains calibrated and our timber does not snap under the pressure of leadership.
II. Scriptural Reading: Psalm 127
"Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain... It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives to his beloved sleep."
The Vertical Insight: Rest is the ultimate act of trust. If the Vertical Axis (Integrity before God) isn't the primary builder, you are merely "eating the bread of anxious toil."
III. The Core Lesson: The Warrior and the Lamb
The hardest part of the Cruciform life isn't just having strength—it’s calibrating it. Jesus Christ was the only man to perfectly integrate both the Lion (Warrior) and the Lamb (Gentle).
1. The Warrior (The Lion)
The part of a man that says, "This far and no further." It is used for protection, discipline, and the pursuit of truth.
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The Shadow: When disconnected from the heart, the Warrior becomes a bully or a tyrant.
2. The Gentle (The Lamb)
The part of a man that says, "I am here for you." It is the energy of empathy, kindness, and patience.
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The Shadow: When disconnected from the spine, the Lamb becomes a Coward or a Doormat.
IV. The Three Calibrations
To lead effectively, a man must "switch" his energy based on the need of the moment:
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The Whip and the Basin (Authority vs. Affection): Jesus used a whip to clear the Temple (Warrior) but a basin to wash feet (Lamb).
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The Calibration: A man is harsh with the problem, but tender with the person.
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The Silence and the Shout (Restraint vs. Reckoning): Jesus was silent before Pilate’s ego but loud against the Pharisees' hypocrisy.
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The Calibration: A man is quiet about his own slights; he is loud about the needs of others.
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The Sword and the Ear (Protection vs. Presence): Peter drew the sword in the garden; Jesus healed the ear of the enemy.
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The Calibration: True strength is meekness—which is not weakness, but "power under control."
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V. Seven Foundation Scriptures
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Genesis 2:2 – God finished His work and rested. (The Divine Pattern).
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Psalm 127:2 – He gives to His beloved sleep. (The Futility of the Grind).
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Isaiah 30:15 – In quietness and trust shall be your strength. (The Source of Power).
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Mark 6:31 – "Come away... and rest a while." (The Command to Disconnect).
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1 Kings 19:5-8 – God’s prescription for Elijah: Food and Sleep. (The Physicality of Recovery).
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Revelation 5:5-6 – The Lion who is also the Lamb. (The Model of Integrated Strength).
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Matthew 11:28 – "I will give you rest." (The Invitation to the Vertical Axis).
VI. Three Anchor Quotes
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"The timber of the soul grows strongest when the wind is fierce, but it anchors deepest when the earth is still." — Inspired by 'Good Timber'
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"A leader who is always 'on' is eventually a leader who has nothing left to give." — Will Archer
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"Ten years from now, the only people who will remember that you worked late are your children." — Unknown
VII. The Practical Drill: The "Switch"
Practice the "Threshold Prayer": Before walking through your front door after a day of work, pause.
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Decompress: Leave the "battle" of the day at the doorstep.
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Calibrate: Ask God to help you "sheathe the sword" and "pick up the basin."
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Enter: Walk in as a shepherd offering presence, not a tyrant demanding service.
VIII. Discussion Group Questions
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The Default Setting: Are you naturally more of a "Warrior" (prone to anger/control) or a "Lamb" (prone to passivity/pleasing)? How has this affected your home?
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The Friction of Silence: Why does the idea of a "Digital Sabbath" or 30 minutes of silence create anxiety in you? What are you afraid you’ll hear in the quiet?
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The Safe House: If we asked the people who live under your roof, would they say you are a "safe place" for them to fail? Why or why not?
IX. Call to Action (CTA)
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The 30-Minute Margin: Add a 30-minute buffer to all travel. Use it for silence and mental reset, not your phone.
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The Sunset Shutdown: All screens off 60 minutes before bed to allow the brain to enter the recovery phase.
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The 24-Hour Sabbath: One full day this month with zero business communication or project planning.
June 28, 2026
Jeremiah 1:5
God knew you before you were formed in the womb
Three main points
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Brotherhood - Daniel 3
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Lordship - Luke 14:25-33
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Leadership - Hebrews 11:32-40
Men are called to Lead our Families, our communities and our society.
Godly men must stand up to evil and overcome evil with Good.
Reference - When a nation forgets God and the church by the train tracks that sang louder to drown out the voices of those being taken to concentration camps in WW2. The actions of this church highlights the dangers of moral indifference, complicity, and the human tendency to ignore suffering when it disrupts our comfort.
Quote from Alfred Lord Tennyson
"Though much is taken, much abides; and though We are not now that strength which in old days Moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are; One equal temper of heroic hearts, Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield."
July 19, 2026
The Cruciform Man: From the Dust to the White Horse
Text: Genesis 1:26-28; Philippians 2:5-8; Revelation 19:11-16
Themes: Identity, Dignity, True Masculinity
Introduction: The Crisis of the Modern Man
Brothers, look around. We are living in a generation of profound confusion. If you ask the world today, "What is a man?" you will get two competing, equally broken answers.
One side tells you that masculinity is a disease—that your drive, your physical strength, and your protective instincts are a problem to be medicated, solved, or suppressed.
The other side offers a cheap, plastic imitation of manhood. The internet "alpha male" gurus tell you that masculinity is about dominating others, flexing wealth, chasing women, and never showing a single moment of vulnerability.
Both are lies from the pit. One reduces you to an apology; the other reduces you to an animal.
Tonight, we are tearing down those idols. We are going to look at what it means to be a Cruciform Man—a man shaped entirely by the cross of Jesus Christ. To find our true identity, our unshakable dignity, and the bedrock of our masculinity, we have to look at the whole story. We must start in the dirt of Genesis, and we must end in the blinding glory of Revelation.
Part I: The Genesis Blueprint (Your Identity & Dignity)
Turn to Genesis 1. God speaks the cosmos into existence. He commands the light, the oceans, and the stars. But when He creates man, He gets his hands in the dirt. The rhythm changes.
“Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule…” (Genesis 1:26)
Hear this clearly: Your dignity is not earned; it is endowed. Before you ever accomplished a single thing, before you ever failed, before you ever closed a deal or committed a sin, the Creator of the universe stamped His own image onto your soul.
In Genesis 2:15, God places Adam in the garden and gives him two commands: to work it (abad) and to keep it (shamar). Cultivate and protect.
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Cultivate: Take the raw materials of the earth and make them flourish. Build. Bring order to chaos.
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Protect: Stand at the gate and keep the wolves out.
That is your original identity. You are kings under the High King, called to build and called to fight. But we know what happened. In Genesis 3, the serpent entered the garden. And what did the first man do? Absolutely nothing.
Adam’s original sin wasn’t just eating a piece of fruit; it was cowardly passivity. He stood silently while his bride was deceived and his domain was invaded. Ever since that day, broken men have defaulted to one of two extremes: we either abdicate our responsibility and become entirely passive, or we abuse our strength and become tyrants.
Part II: The Cruciform King (Redefined Masculinity)
How do we get our identity back? How do we reclaim the dignity we threw away in Eden? We look to the Second Adam. We look to Jesus.
If you want to know what a real man looks like, you do not look to a podium, a boardroom, or an octagon. You look to a Roman cross.
The world says, "Use your strength to serve yourself." Jesus says, "I will use my strength to serve you."
Look at the upper room. The God of the universe strips down to the posture of a slave, takes a towel, and washes the filthy feet of the men who are about to abandon Him. Look at Golgotha. He doesn't assert His rights. He takes wood, iron, and the crushing wrath of God onto His own shoulders so His bride can live.
This is what "Cruciform" means. A cross-shaped masculinity. True biblical masculinity is taking the strength, the privilege, and the power God has given you, and bleeding it out for the flourishing of the people around you. Living as a Cruciform man is not a brief sprint of enthusiasm. It is an ultra-marathon. It requires the kind of mental endurance, reliance on teamwork with your brothers, and singular clarity of purpose that only comes when you willingly push through the pain for a greater goal.
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It means you absorb the hit so your kids can thrive.
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It means you die to your ego, your comfort, and your free time so your church and your community can be built up.
There is zero dignity in selfishness. Your dignity is fully realized when you lay your life down.
Part III: The Warrior of Revelation (The Climax)
But brothers, do not mistake submission to God for weakness. Do not mistake a sacrificial heart for a soft spine. The story doesn’t end with Jesus in the tomb, and it doesn't end with Him simply being a "gentle teacher."
Turn to Revelation 19. The skies rip open.
"I saw heaven standing open and there before me was a white horse, whose rider is called Faithful and True. With justice he judges and wages war. His eyes are like blazing fire, and on his head are many crowns... He is dressed in a robe dipped in blood, and his name is the Word of God." (Revelation 19:11-13)
Look at the King! He is the Lamb who was slain, yes—but He is also the Lion of the Tribe of Judah. A sword comes from His mouth to strike down the nations. He treads the winepress of the fury of the wrath of God Almighty. On His thigh is written: KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS.
This is the Jesus who defines your masculinity. He is infinitely tender with the broken, yet infinitely terrifying to the wicked. He heals the leper, and He shatters the empires of hell.
You are called to be like Him.
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Fierce enough to stand against a culture that hates God, yet gentle enough to hold your weeping child in the middle of the night.
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Unyielding when it comes to truth, yet breaking your own heart to show grace to the fallen.
Conclusion: The Charge
Men of the Cruciform, the time for playing games is over. The world does not need more overgrown boys. It needs men.
It needs men who know their identity is secured in Genesis, their salvation is bought at the Cross, and their ultimate victory is guaranteed in Revelation.
Stop apologizing for the strength God gave you. Use it. Cultivate your homes. Protect your families from the rot of this culture. Serve your wives like Christ loved the church. Repent of your secret sins, step out of the shadows, and stand on the firing line.
You are made in the image of the Almighty. You are saved by the blood of the Lamb. You ride behind the King of Kings. Now act like it.
Let's pray.
Small Group Discussion Questions
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The Eden Default: In Genesis, Adam failed through "cowardly passivity." In your own life, where are you most tempted to simply stand by and do nothing when you should be cultivating or protecting?
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The Counterfeit vs. The Cross: Where do you see yourself buying into the world’s definitions of manhood (either the "toxic/apologetic" view or the "alpha/domineering" view)? How does the image of Jesus washing feet challenge that specific mindset?
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The Ultra-Marathon of Sacrifice: Cruciform masculinity demands dying to self for the flourishing of others. What is one specific area (ego, comfort, hobbies, finances) where God is currently calling you to lay down your rights for the sake of your family or community?
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The Lion and the Lamb: Revelation 19 shows Jesus as a fierce warrior, while the Gospels show Him as a tender healer. Which side of biblical masculinity do you struggle with more: being fiercely unyielding for the truth, or being deeply tender and gracious to the broken? Why?
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Taking the Firing Line: Based on tonight's charge, what is one tangible, concrete action you need to take this week to stop playing games and step up as a Cruciform man in your home, workplace, or church?
August 16, 2026
Robbie Pruitt: Listening to God in the Life of Elijah
Click here for image PDF.
Click here for the "Seven Realities of Experiencing God" PDF.
September 20, 2026
MEN THAT SEE AND MEN THAT STAND
Introduction: From Two Cells to Thirty Trillion
Before you were a title, a balance sheet, a leader in a boardroom, or a father in a home, you started as two microscopic cells—one from your mother, one from your father.
From that seed, God knit you together into 30 trillion cells—that is 30 times one trillion individual parts working in staggering, breathless orchestration. Every heartbeat, every neural pathway, every breath is sustained by the Creator, Almighty God. Yet men routinely spend their lives managing the outer 30 trillion while starving the inner man who walks with God.
We are walking through 2 Kings 6:8–7:20, looking at real-world spiritual leadership. Not theoretical religion. Real sight. Real crisis. Real stakes. We need men with eyes that see and values that don’t move—vision and core values, men like Elisha.
Part I: The Anatomy of Spiritual Sight (2 Kings 6:8–23)
The Threat & The Blindness of Human Calculus
The king of Aram tries to ambush Israel time and again, and time and again, Elisha—connected directly to the source—warns the king of Israel. The Aramean king loses his mind, discovers Elisha is at Dothan, and sends a massive army, horses, and chariots by night to surround a single man.
The servant wakes up, walks outside, and panics: "Alas, my master! What shall we do?"
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The Servant sees the perimeter: Troops, horses, metal, odds stacked against them. Panic is rational when your vision stops at natural limits.
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The King of Israel manages the traffic later, takes the credit, wants the benefit, but has zero intimacy with God. Humanism makes sense on paper; it's logical not to believe tomorrow brings wholesale rescue. Yet humanism leaves you terrified, bitter, or murderous when pressure hits.
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The Prayer That Changes Everything
Elisha doesn't run, hide, or offer political spin. He prays: "Lord, open his eyes and let him see." And the servant looks up: The hillsides around Elisha are filled with horses and chariots of fire. The Divine Majority. This is what happens when God tempers a generation: we need men with eyes that see and values that don’t move—vision and core values, men like Elisha.
Then God blinds the Aramean army, and Elisha leads them right into the heart of Samaria—not to slaughter them as prisoners of war, contrary to bloodlust, but to feed them and send them back. The result? The Aramean raiders stayed away. Victory without a single shot fired, anchored in supernatural clarity.
Part II: The Famine, the Madness, and the Trap of the Humanist Mind (2 Kings 6:24–7:2)
Sometime later, Ben-Hadad besieges Samaria. Famine hits so hard a donkey's head costs 80 pieces of silver, and dove's dung costs 5.
A woman cries out to the king on the wall. The horror of the siege drives humanity to the unthinkable—agreeing to boil and consume children. When the king hears it, he tears his clothes, wears sackcloth under his robe, and in his rage, turns his fury not toward repentance, but toward the man of God: May God kill me if I don't sever Elisha's head today.
Elisha sits untouched, telling the elders: A murderer is coming. Shut the door.
When the royal officer sneers at God's promise—that flour and barley will plummet to affordable prices by this time tomorrow even if God opened windows in heaven—Elisha gives him a chilling verdict: You will see it with your own eyes, but you will not eat any of it.
The Beach in the Bahamas (Why Standing Up Matters): Imagine standing ankle-deep in the crystal shallows off a Bahamian beach, watching a dark, deceptive shadow glide straight toward the sandbar where children play. A passive bystander says, "Well, the water's moving everyone; let's see how current trends feel." A man with spine and sight doesn't debate the personality of the tide or negotiate with the shadow—he plants his feet, sounds the alarm, and draws a line in the surf. When society tells you to accommodate a sinking, starving, morally deranged siege mentality, sitting down and rationalizing the madness is a death sentence. Standing up isn't about being loud for a crowd; it's recognizing that if you don't plant your feet on eternal truth where you stand, the undertow takes your entire house.
Part III: The Leper's Surrender & The Stampede at the Gate
(2 Kings 7:3–20)
Four men with leprosy sitting outside the gate ask the hard question: Why sit here and die? Starve here, starve there. Might as well walk to the enemy camp.
God amplifies the sound of speeding chariots, galloping horses, and a massive coalition (Hittites/Egyptians), causing the Arameans to flee into the night naked of gear, leaving behind tents, gold, silver, and food.
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The lepers gorge, hide treasure, then convict each other: This is a day of good news; we aren't sharing it, guilt will find us. They tell the gatekeeper.
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The king wakes in disbelief, smells a trap (they're hiding in the fields waiting for us to exit), and sends 5 remaining horses.
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The people rush out, plunder the camp, fulfillment hits: 6 quarts of choice flour for 1 piece of silver, 12 quarts of barley for 1 piece of silver.
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And the officer controlling the traffic? Trampled to death at the gate. He saw it with his eyes, managed the crowd, possessed zero spiritual reality, and lost his life in the stampede of ordinary panic.
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Part IV: Real-World Application for Cruciform Men
Men, you are called to be priests in your household. Not traffic cops managing chaos.
Look at what breaks societies and homes when fathers check out:
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The Moral Decay & Father Absence Crisis: Virginia data shows family engagement programs (like Virginia’s Responsible Fatherhood Initiative / HB2489 and family/resource center assembly investments) treat symptoms where paternal presence has fractured. When fathers abdicate priestly stewardship, cultural vacuums fill with an industry of agitation (C.S. Lewis’s "men without chests"—loud online, morally bankrupt offline).
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The Danger of Misplaced Standards: We maintain rigid metrics for money, jobs, and house size, while holding zero standards for our actual closeness to God. Stop leading like the humanist king who wants the benefit of God’s rescue without the intimacy of Elisha’s vision.
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Addressing the Virginia Constitutional Amendments: A Moral Standard & A Fundamental Restructuring
Our choices to vote for individual candidates belong to the individual conscience. Vote NO on all three Virginia constitutional/ballot measures for moral reasons, not partisan ones. It is always right to do right, and these measures represent a fundamental restructuring of society and a further descent into moral decay and social destruction—yet the men of Virginia are overwhelmingly silent:
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Amendment #1 (Life): Directs the constitutional battleground toward the sanctity and protection of innocent life. Moral verdict: Vote NO on policy erosion/devaluation of life; stand for the Creator's design of life.
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Amendment #2 (Marriage and Gender Redefinition): Deceptively framed under the guise of equality and redundant protection (since same-sex marriage is already legal under Obergefell). It erases "man" and "woman" from constitutional marriage definitions, destroying unique recognition of committed mother-father stability for children. Separating "sex" from "gender" inserts transgender ideology into the foundational law, threatening parental rights, girls' privacy/sports, and pressuring institutions against biological reality. Crucially, it omits religious freedom protections for clergy and government workers whose faith forbids recognizing non-traditional partnerships as marriage. Moral verdict: Vote NO.
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Amendment #3 (Justice and Restorative/Unrestricted Franchise): Seeks the blanket restoration of felons' voting rights without limits and regardless of the nature of crimes committed, detaching civic governance from moral accountability. Moral verdict: Vote NO.
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The Priority: The spiritual must precede the leadership. If your private altar is cold, your public stance lacks power. In this hour of cultural drift, remember: we need men with eyes that see and values that don’t move—vision and core values, men like Elisha.
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Open Eyes, Open Hearts, Open Arms
PillarFamily LeadershipCivic / Real-World Leadership
Open Eyes - Look past surface behavior in your family to spiritual warfare and reality. Look past deceptive ballot/cultural framing to eternal biological, moral, and foundational truth.
Open Hearts - Drop the bitterness, fatigue, and quiet cynicism of the 2020–2026 crucible. Refuse outrage addiction, cowardice, and grievance-mongering (I permit no man to degrade my soul).
Open Arms -Shelter, provide, catechize daily, stand unbowed. Lead your business, neighborhood, and community with unshakable calm.
Closing Charge
OUR LOVE FOR GOD GIVES US THE STRENGTH TO LOVE OUR NEIGHBORS… TO LOVE EVEN OUR ENEMIES AND FORGE UNITY IN OUR COMMUNITY.
IT IS ALWAYS RIGHT TO DO RIGHT. VOTE NO ON ALL THREE. BREAK THE SILENCE. BUILD AND REBUILD TOGETHER.
Look past the traffic gate. Look past the fear of the perimeter. The hills around your house are covered in the chariots of fire.
Cruciform Men’s Group Discussion Questions
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On Vision (Open Eyes / Dothan): Looking at 2 Kings 6:15–17, the servant saw the natural perimeter and panicked, while Elisha saw the chariots of fire (the Divine Majority). Where in your current season—marriage, business, or community—are you operating from humanistic calculation and panic at the visible army rather than praying for God to open your eyes to the spiritual reality surrounding your household?
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On Household Leadership (The Two-Cell to Thirty-Trillion Reality): You were knit together from two cells into 30 trillion (30 times one trillion) orchestrated by the Creator, yet men often maintain rigid standards for houses, jobs, and financial targets while treating closeness to God as optional. Where is your private altar cold or compartmentalized, and what concrete shift will you make this week to let the spiritual precede your leadership as priest of your home?
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On Standing at the Gate / Voting Morally (Calling Balls, Strikes, and Breaking Silence): Across the denominational divide—standing with Catholic bishops, Protestant pastors, and priests who recognize that right is right and wrong is wrong without bending to political correctness, false neutrality, or the deafening silence of Virginia men while society undergoes a fundamental restructuring (Amendment #1 on life, Amendment #2 on marriage/gender redefinition omitting religious freedom, and Amendment #3 on unrestricted felon voting regardless of crime)—where are you tempted to play traffic cop or stay silent to avoid friction, and what does standing unbowed, unbent, and unbought look like for you at the civic gate?
If you have any questions or would like more information about Cruciform,
please contact Denny Schnack or Nick Makrides at office@iachurch.org.
